Betty's List Departments
Signature Sponsors
Media Partners
Betty's List Columns
|
|
Double Standards-
By Shane Craig Duncan
Lately it seems that the use of double standards
in America has become a perfectly acceptable and practiced behavior. The
act alone contradicts all of the progress made and reached by our own conditioning
and overall rights as a people.
How can defaming others help unite the differences of a people? But for
such a trait or behavior, to become so widely used, and so widely acceptable
leaves me astonished at the level of ignorance that still, to this day, inhibits
our country.
It's true that I have done this too . . . perhaps it is a learned trait. But why do we, as a people, do this?
An
example of such traits would be the use of derogatory words by a group of
people. It is hard to understand how one culture can say such things and
the rest just listen and observe. It's a hurtful word regardless of who uses
it and what context used in, so why even use it to begin with? But then to
not expect it to be used by others, and in mainstream media is just unrealistic.
It has been said by many people that it is perfectly acceptable for certain
peoples to use these words to desensitize themselves from the pain that it
brings. But no matter what, the negative feelings and overall gravity is
not reduced, no matter how many times one says them. I have been called every
name in the book, more times than I would like to admit, and yet they still
hurt.
I even observed this behavior in action while watching the political
debates. Now, my own political stance is separate with this topic in its
entirety. However, it bothers me that someone as powerful as Senator Obama
can say such words without any consequence.
He said: "But she is a typical white person who, if she sees somebody
on the street that she doesn't know, there's a reaction that's been bred
into our experiences that don't go away, and that sometimes come out in the
wrong way, and that's just the nature of race in our society." It is a safe
statement that this is defiantly "shaming" a group of people.
What would happen if a white person made such
a comment? What if a Gay person made one? I highly doubt that it would be
as accepted or even as unnoticed as this one. I understand that it is sometimes
hard to let go of the pain that has been caused over the years of such treatment.
But passing such judgments, seems to be hate filled and all together ironically
familiar to what his statement was trying to get across.
I am not here to pass judgments of my own, nor am I here to talk
politics. I am, rather, only trying to highlight that America cannot continue
letting such "traits" happen over and over again. Two wrongs don't make a
right, and certainly does not erase the pain in the subject.
Being gay, I have had to endure ignorance, and overall stupidity, but
trying to lay blame on any group is futile in the long run., It can only
harm your own goals. It just seems that perhaps being the " Better Man" or
" Better Woman" is all we as a society and overall, as a people can do. Acceptance
may never really be obtained, but what is the harm in trying to accept? What
can go wrong: Will the responding party continue acting the way they do?
At least you tried, and in the long run that is all that can be asked for.
Double standards are an awful behavior that has lately been accepted
as the norm for cultures to behave and act. As stated earlier, my opinions
are not to judge or harm any one's feelings, but rather to point out a flaw
in the search for peace that so many have.
Obama's statement gathered from: a radio show in Philadelphia, March 20th 2008, quote from the speech available at this link:
Bio & Past Articles
Past Articles
|
Betty's List Teen Talk Columnist Shane Craig Duncan.
Shane Craig Duncan is a gay teen, who, at the ripe old age of seventeen, lives in both San Francisco and San Diego.
With his dad, Shane has traveled across Europe and Mexico, broadening his understanding of and appreciation for diversity and the human condition.
He enjoys reading, writing, playing a multitude of musical instruments, including Alto Saxophone to Bassoon. Shane also enjoys indulging in various art-related activities.
His father is also gay and now lives in San Francisco with his partner. His mother is straight and lives in San Diego with her husband and two twin daughters.
Shane believes that the only true weapons against ignorance are education and respect. "The more that we look to the past, the more we learn how to advance in our cultural and social conditioning," he says.
Through his new column on Betty’s List, “Teen Talk,” Shane hopes to reach out to other gay youth by providing a hate-free atmosphere, lending support and advice for those who are in need of it or are just willing to hear about his experiences and beliefs.
Send a message to Shane at: shanecraigduncan@gmail.com.
|
|